I sort of made a conscious decision to sort of stop facebook “liking” a friend’s posts for 30 days. It’s been tough, but I felt like it was something I should try. You see, I only follow 70 or so people on facebook, many of them inactive, many of them very active. It was the active ones that I saw every morning when I woke up, and through out the day. So, those ones got the likes. But, it sort of seemed like it was starting to change my emotional state, in some way. I started reacting weird when I didn’t get reciprocal attention. Not only did this start making me feel emotionally needy, it started making me, I don’t know, confused, I guess. It seemed like even a little bit of attention would bring me an emotional high, but conversely, lack of attention would make me unhappy. How in the heck did my emotional state become so tied into facebook likes? Crazy, huh?
The original article that led me to try this experiment had to do with trying to force yourself to interact personally more. a facebook like is an ambiguous thing. Anyway, it’s not that I don’t “like” my friend, it’s that I “like” my friend’s statuses too much, if the word in a facebook context means anything. I will say this, there are a few things I’d go back and like once the trial is over.
This did make me think about things like “withholding affection”, and “positive reinforcement”, and stuff. There’s a world of things going on behind people’s minds, why they do things, and the things they do, and I don’t think it’s easy to discern that through social media. I know I’ve often found myself guessing, or felt like I had to be careful not to be misunderstood. A lot of folks say I overanalyze things, and I guess that’s true. But, you know, I don’t have a lot, (let’s not kid ourselves, I don’t have any that I see on a regular basisi), of real life social life friends to talk with and get their take on things, so I’m mostly left just trying to sort things out myself.